"It is unseemly to addict oneself to wearisomeness of affliction for those of whom it is to be believed have attained to true life by dying. We who know this, who believe it and teach it, ought not to be too much distressed for those who depart, lest what in others has a show of affection be to us rather a matter of blame. For it is, as it were, a kind of distrust to be tormented by sadness in opposition to what everyone preaches, as the Apostle says, 'But we would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who are asleep, that you not have sorrow as those who have no hope' (I Thes. 4:12)."
St. Gregory the Great